Dear Kendra, Happy Birthday
- By Cheska & Doug Kramer
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- 08 Jul, 2016
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Dearest Baby Kendra,
Just a week ago you celebrated your birthday! You're now 7 years old! How time flies by... A whole year is not enough to kiss and hug you and enjoy all the wonderful things you're made of. How I wish the years are much longer, that way we can hold on to you for a much longer time.
Just in case you forget later on, we celebrated your birthday with a bang! We celebrated not just your 7th birthday but also the day you brought meaning and a deeper sense of what love really means to mama and papa. Your birth is a reflection of mama and papas love for each other.
Kendra girl, you should know that love is not celebrated only once, but everyday! Just like the time we give you. Love is not based on material things but it's a feeling that is accompanied by words and action.
Don't forget the special celebrations we have together. But also cherish what you have everyday with your family. Never ever forget that love is spending time together, saying it everyday, being gentle and kind, respectful, loyal, honest and truthful and most of all being obedient. Love should be consistent.
Sometimes love also requires discipline. These are the things you learn along the little humps and bumps we come across together. Parents need to teach their children so that they learn to follow rules... Rules and values that will come in handy as you go on with your life. Mamas and papas that teach their children well, love their children well too. May you always be appreciative of the things we teach you. May you keep them close to your heart and follow what is right and good, because it is also pleasing in God's eyes.
One day you will forget all your dolls and toys. Maybe you'll pass them on to someone who might want them more or even donate them to an orphanage. There will be one thing though that will never get old and you will never get tired of, it's hearing your parents and siblings telling you how much we love you, and each other. Our daily devotion nights, praying out loud for each other, all the hugs and kisses, your dates with papa, mama preparing your clothes for those dates, playtime in the playroom, eating together as a family, all the life and Biblical lessons we teach the three of you and all the spectacular moments you have kept in your memory bank. Those are the things that matter the most Kendra. Those are the experiences that will build your character and you will hold on to. One day when you have children of your own those are the same things you will teach them.
So listen patiently, understand with love, and treasure these moments that we would like to impart with you. None of these things will harm you, instead it's meant to teach, and protect you. Sometimes we might not agree, but remember that papa and mama love you so much and only want what's best for you. All the things we teach you are really all for you... Only the best for you!
We love you Kendra... We made you out of love, even before you were born you were already loved, and everyday since the day you were born the love we have for you has never dimmed it only gets brighter at each passing day.
What can be more extravagant than your celebration? It's the love that is felt in your home... That is something that is celebrated everyday. Love that is always present is priceless!
Your birthday was really something special Kendra. Papa and mama wanted it to be very memorable. And one of the first things we wanted to do was do a pre-birthday concept shoot! Thanks to Tita Charisse Tinio of Nice Print Photography for organizing everything! Take a look at these beautiful photos:
For more pre birthday photos of Kendra, click HERE
After the shoot, the planning stage! It was a big party that needed special attention to detail. So we got Teena Barretto to organize the whole program, and also to lessen the headaches for mama and papa.
We were also glad we got Gideon Hermosa_ to style your requested Royal Ball. Since you wanted the colors to be purple, gold and silver, your idea became a dream come true. And it was absolutely stunning!
More photos of Kendra's Princess Inspired Birthday Set-up HERE
Even the giveaways and souvenirs for the guests had to be special, the castles from Handicrafts Atbp, the super cute bookmarks from Knotville Favors, the photo booth from Studio On Wheels, and your arts-and-crafts corner where you and all of your friends got the chance to design your own plush toys La Pomme Party.
Even your own baby cologne Sniff And Cuddle gave away the three special baby scents! All the babies loved it sweetheart! Also Robby Rabbit gave away lots of bags and water bottles for the kiddos! Super happy our Robby Rabbit family joined in to make the kids happy!
To also keep the children happy and energetic, we had so much activities for them to do. One Sweet Day PH made sure everyone's sweet tooth was satisfied. A princess salon, and a kiddie tattoo area for your guy friends. Pouf Cotton Candy was there too! Gavin found it super colorful, playful and really yummy, he even went back for a second time!
And like we told you during the planning stage, all of these would be done at a special venue. It was where we got married! So we're super grateful Blue Leaf at McKinley was available for your big celebration! We even got the same caterers in Josiah's! Couldn't go wrong with them. The kiddie food, roast beef and Mongolian bbq were top notch!
Papa and mama wanted all your guests to be entertained and have a really great time. And we're glad the talented princess singers from Clowning Around MNL kept everyone on their feet. And we're sure you'll agree, they really sounded like Disney princesses singing! Truly a big hit in the party!
And one of the highlights of the party was when our three yayas, Yaya Jenny, Josie, and Jean danced Tatlong Bibe for you! Everyone was so happy!
The cake. The cake! Red Ribbon did such a great job putting together mama's idea for your cake! No detail was left out, and it was definitely a head turner during your party and online. Definitely fit for a princess!
Everything just came together and was incorporated nicely with your princess royal ball theme. And when your 7th birthday came, all eyes were on you and your beautiful red gown! Made of course by your Tita Mimiflaz of#CostumesByBumblebeePh When mama posted a teaser of your gown on Instagram and FB, everyone was just excited to see how you would look on your big day. Baby, stunning is an understatement! Wow! You looked so lovely baby girl! You really looked like a princess!
And of course Tita Mimi also made Mama's and Scarlett's beautiful gowns! We always know how much time and effort she puts to making our gowns and costumes ever since you guys were smaller babies!
And.....The most emotional and meaningful part of the night. Also the most important since papa and mama wanted this part to be something for you to remember till you grow up. The time I sang to you and the moment I gave your promise ring.
I will always
remind you Kendra. Again, what is a promise ring?
Baby, it is an outward symbol of a promise between people, just like papa and mama's ring to symbolize our love and marriage. For this, it's a promise between you and me Kendra. Pls remember to stay obedient, to love God, and to never easily give away your love to just anyone. Remember how your family loves you. But most especially remember how I treat you, the time I give you, how I respect you as a lady, how I encourage to build your relationship with God, and how much I unconditionally love you. You deserve nothing but the best. Happy birthday Kendra!
I'm really glad Treehouse Story came on board to help me compile your growing years video and slideshow. Baby, know that when I was practicing this while looking at the video and imagining you and I in the lyrics, it made me cry several times. And people might not have seen it, but mid way while I was singing, I saw you tearing up....but you were stopping yourself coz you were shy as what you told me afterwards
Just to point out some of my favorite lines from the song which perfectly captures my emotions and feelings towards you, my baby.
"You will always have a part of me, nobody else is ever going to see."
Kendra, you know how special you are to me. You helped make me into the father I am today. My first baby.
"And I would never try to make you be, anything you didn't really wanna be baby girl."
Kendra, when you grow up, know that I will support you in anything and everything you want to do. Just as long as it will benefit you and not be a distraction. I will guide you every step of the way. I will hold your hand when you need my guidance. I'll be your shoulder to lean on, and will still be behind you during the times you might find it hard to understand me.
"You'll be a lady soon, but until then you gotta do what I say."
"One day you're gonna want to go, I hope I taught you everything you need to know baby girl."
Kendra, you'll always be papa and mama's baby. And don't ever forget, that when the time comes you'll be a lady, that in our eyes, you'll always be that baby that comes running or crying to us, needing our attention. And that will never be shortchanged when you grow up. So always listen to our guidance baby. As it says in the bible, and we always remind you, "to honor your father and mother." You may forget all these things, but never forget this. Which our nightly devotions reinforce; to always put God first, your family second and your career the far third.
We love you so much baby kenken! Always be a blessing to the people around you, and most especially to papa and mama, and your best friends, Scarlett and Gavin!
Here's more pictures from our family, guests, and friends during your 7th birthday celebration!
How do people define being rich? Some would quantify it with the amount of material possessions. For others, fame, position and power equates to being rich. For Chesca and I, knowing our purpose on earth and who we live for gives us peace of mind and contentment. But contentment never stopped us from working hard and striving to reach our dreams. Especially to secure the future of Kendra, Scarlett, and Gavin.
While we believe that we shouldn’t be satisfied with what we've achieved, and that improvement is part of growth, we also should not take for granted including the Lord in our plans. For everything we do on earth, we are made accountable to Him. Everything we have belongs to God.
Worldly wealth never satisfies! We can recall the times we would want to buy something new. The excitement is always there. When you stare at it and use it, happiness creeps in. Even when our kids buy their favorite toys, we would warn them that later on they would want more. It’s a natural reaction. That is why we always teach our kids to value family and their relationship with Jesus, and not what the world can offer. Days and weeks go by, then we find ourselves wanting more, or something new. When does it end? Jim Carey the Hollywood comedian who earns millions of dollars per movie, said it best, “I think everybody should get rich and famous and do everything they ever dreamed of so they can see that it’s NOT the answer.”
Our adventures as a family are always something we all look forward to. No work, just our kids and us! Our go-to beaches in the Philippines have always been Bohol, Boracay and Palawan, and they never fail to still amaze us every single trip! But it’s always been a dream of Chesca and I to go to the beautiful Maldivian islands. And how can we not dream of such paradise! We read about it through our favorite Hollywood celebrities, through those Instagram pages that make us want to teleport right away, and of course from featured websites that describe it as something that should be part of every persons bucket list.
When or how do we train our kids when it comes to manners? Do we just tell them about it? Do they just pick it up from us and apply it naturally? How old do I even start teaching them?
As parents it is important that we teach our children! It is our job! it's an entitlement that God has given us parents to raise obedient and well-mannered kids. But we also must remember just like in everything we need to be intentional and that includes raising our children. What does being intentional mean? Being intentional means planning and committing our time to teach them so we can be effective, that way something purposeful comes out of it.
It is our obligation as parents to teach and train our children as they grow up. But we cannot just merely tell them what to do. You have to tell them and apply it every day for them to see. Live it, breath it... Exemplify it!
When we teach our children good manners... We also need to remind ourselves to be patient and to do it lovingly. We must understand just like everyone of us, children are also a work in progress. Don't expect them to get it right away. Our purpose is to teach and for them to learn. To follow respectfully and to remember to be obedient because it's the right thing to do, and not to coerce them forcefully because they might follow without truly understanding. We must also be consistent when we teach them that way they know that rules are rules. When raising kids, we parents have to be united in everything. There shouldn't be any good cop or bad cop. It only confuses the kids more and you take away the authority to be followed. In their heads, "I know I can sway my mom to agree with me and because I know that I will always ask the one who allows me." It's a lose lose situation! We have taught them nothing but how to manipulate us.
However, we parents are not perfect as well and sometimes we make wrong decisions too. Once we realize that we need to correct our decisions let it be known to our children that we will do so on our own time. They should learn to wait patiently and learn to respect authority.
Why do we need to teach our children good manners? Simply because parents who teach their kids to be courteous have better relationships with their children. They learn to follow rules, they're more considerate of others, they're humble, respectful and are happy, confident people. That is why it is so important to be present in their lives. Our roles as parents are so crucial. Who will they look up to if they have nobody there for them? Most parents wonder why they have disrespectful children when they have done nothing but give them everything. You can give them everything but everything to them is spending time with you! "Don't replace presence with presents." Build on your relationship with them!
Children are naturally curious and never running out of questions. Don't be lazy in telling them why you're teaching them... I always tell my children that, parents who teach their children well, love their children well. They know that everything mama and papa teaches them is for their own good even when we discipline them they know it is all out of love. When we take the time to talk to them they also learn to listen and we in turn learn to understand what's in their hearts and minds. As parents we need to make them feel that their thoughts and feelings matter to us the most.
Do everything together with your children. Teach them how it's done and make it fun. We want them to remember what is being taught to them and not to be scared of us. If they make a mistake, take it as an opportunity to remind and correct them. On the other hand, when they do something right, praise them for it! It will encourage them all the more. The best reward a parent can give a child is not material things, but it is showing that their good efforts are seen and appreciated.
Help each other out by practicing it consistently. Practice it until it becomes a force of habit. Be creative with your kids and find out what works for them.
I have observed several times that children who have good manners are happily welcomed to other people's homes. Their demeanor is confident without being arrogant, self-assured and secured with themselves.
Our kids are far from being perfect and I can't promise that we won't have misunderstandings. But just like every relationship that is built with a strong foundation it doesn't easily crumble. Kids are so much smarter than what we think they are. Later on, our "crazy" stories that we make up just so that they will follow us will no longer work and then we will realize they really never learned anything from it. Those are all momentary solutions with no real lessons. They are far better and important than that. We have to take the time to sit them down, or lay down beside them in bed and talk to them about how we feel and explain to them our intentions. Guide them and remember to do it lovingly, kindly and be truthful to them always.
Don't ever neglect teaching your children proper manners. It goes hand in hand with discipline and consistently teaching them God's Word. As it says in the Bible, Deuteronomy 11:19 states: "Teach them to your children, talking about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up."
Children remember more when they're taught out of love, even without your watchful eyes they stay obedient.
"Fathers, do not exasperate your children; instead, bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord." Ephesians 6:4
